To Take... Or Not To Take... That is The Question. (Basic Blog #13)

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Some of you think that just because you offer, that a Goddess should be jumping on whatever it is that you have to offer. Well let Me tell you this right now... you couldn't be more WRONG. There are many factors that go into whether I even want to interact or play with a sub. Shocking right? NOT. Some subs need to take a step back and take a real hard look at themselves. Just because you "offer" it doesn't mean that the Goddess has to accept. A Domme does what a Domme wants. And if you're not it? Too bad so sad. And for those who are still confused tributes and draining sessions are different things. I don't have to even lift a finger to recieve a tribute. Tributes are no strings attached. Tributes are pure gifts of admiration, appreciation and worship. Findom and kink play... Well that's a lot more intense and a whole lot deeper. This blog will touch on some of the many reasons that may or may not influence a Domme to engage in interactions with subs.

1. What do you have to offer?

If you approach a Domme and tell Her some unsavory things... Do you think She will want to play with you? If you have nothing substancial offer why would a Domme choose to interact with you? Let Me start here... There are many Dommes online, and some Dommes are... More experienced... More successful, ect ect. Not every Domme will accept just any offer that is thrown at Her... you know.... Standards.

2. Is the Domme in the mood?

Nobody is Horny 24/7. And no Domme wants to engage in kink 24/7. Sometimes a Domme just needs to wind down. It doesn't matter how much you have to offer, if a Domme isn't feeling it, She just isn't feeling it... And therefore you will have to do one of 2 things. If you are a "single" "unowned sub," go find a Domme who is in the mood, OR wait until this particular Domme is. 2. If you are an owned sub wait for you Domme to be ready, or you know just send to Her like a good boy is supposed to. Duh.

3. What are the Dommes Expectations.

Much like point #1 if your offer doesn't meet the Dommes expectations, you will be deemed useless. Deal with it.

4. Mutual Interests

Let's be honest, no true Goddess wants to have to work to get what they want. And no true Domme wants to engage in things that disgust Her or even things that don't interest Her. If you are boring af, you won't be played with. If you have disgusting requests, you won't be played with. If you want dumb stuff, you won't be played with. Blah, blah, blah. Findom and kink play is supposed to be fun. If it's not enjoyable/feels like a job, why even bother?

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5. There is a difference between offering to serve and being just damn annoying.

So you might not have a lot to offer, but maybe you still have something that sparks a Dommes interest. Maybe what you have is enough that day... Maybe not. If a Domme decides to interact with you, congratulations, of She says no? Move along. A Domme doesn't owe you anything, not even a response. So recieving rejection should be more than enough, it is also the cue to move on. Rejection is not an invitation to.... Keep begging (That's just plain annoying.), or throw insults or any other form of harassment at the Domme. This is your cue to thank Her for Her time and move on. During that time you move on you can.... A. Grow what you have to offer. B. Find a Domme who will accept what you have to offer. C. Give up and realize you will never be worthy of a Dommes time or attention.

6. Can you really afford being used??

This statement applies to both longterm subs, random and new potential subs. I know Bankrupting subs is a big "thing" in the community, but for those of you new to this World, hi, hello, don't be so naive. Bankrupting subs isn't a reality 99.999999% of the time. Bankrupting is about as realistic and most homewrecking fetishes. AKA they are FANTASIES. Most subs DO NOT want their marriage to be ruined, nor do they want to end up HOMELESS. If you seriously want your life to be blown up beyond repair please get some mental help. So yes, there is kink play where you bankrupt a sub, but come on use you head, it doesn't actually happen 99.9% of the time. It's a ROLEPLAY/FANTASY, not a REALITY, which is the World that I prefer to live in. I prefer to have toys that I can play with longterm, and subs that have a stable life, mentally and physically. There are responsible ways to be drained, you have just be careful not to cross the line, and a times those lines can be very fine. So think about it this way, if you want to be used... Can you be used in a way that won't end up with you on the street? And this shouldn't have to be said... But be careful about WHO you choose to hand your life over to. And if you're a domme who think that subs truly want to be homewrecked, bankrupted, ruined and destroyed, please take a step back and do some actual research, your inexperience is showing.

Alright, let's keep this blog basic. Any interactions with a Domme should always be mutualistic on some level. Dommes are NOT obligated to interact with a sub just because the sub approaches them. This goes both ways. A sub should not be forced to interact or serve a Domme either. I mean this is all very 101 but then again this is also a "basic" blog. Kink should ALWAYS be consensual. So at the end of the day... Taking from a sub depends on many factors. Am I in the mood? Does this sub share mutual kinks? How much does this sub have to offer? Does this sub have the proper mindset to endure My wrath? Does this sub deserve My time? Ect. Ect. If this comes to just tributing a Domme for appreciation, or even an apology well you don't need to ask a Domme, just do it. I'm sure Her methods are available... And if not ASK. ;)