D/s Relationships: What Type Is Right For you? (Basic Blog #5)
So in My past blogs I have mentioned D/s relationships and how I prefer long term meaningful ones, specifically 24/7 where I take complete control over My subs life, but did you know that there are different types of D/s relationships? Not every D/s relationship will be 24/7, 365. Some are more casual, some are romantic in nature and others are platonic. Some D/s relationships are in the bedroom/behind closed doors only. D/s relationships aren't just black or white, this blog will explain some of the different forms of D/s relationships that exist.
1. Casual D/s Relationships.
Some serious D/s relationships start off this way, and sometimes a casual D/s relationship will always remain, well casual. But what is a casual D/s relationship? A casual D/s relationships is much like any other casual/no strings attached relationship but of course in this scenario the power exchange dynamic is still there.
If your D/s is casual it often means that there is no real commitment and the submissive may play with multiple Dominants. When you interact with each other the connection is there, and yes there is often kinky play. (However sometimes it may even just be respectable interaction acknowledging the power dynamic .) I have subs that I have this type of relationship and yes, I still find it enjoyable. Some of My more "casual" D/s relationships are with subs who no longer have the ability to serve full time, but when we have the time to connect it's still just as enjoyable as it once was, however the understanding that it is to be only enjoyed in the moment is there. There are also subs who I play with who come and go, these subs are very lucky, as I don't allow many to have a casual relationship with Goddess.
In a casual D/s relationship, the submissive and Dominant still show as much respect to each other while engaging but once play/interaction is over they go their own separate ways. Unlike a serious D/s relationship the Domme and sub don't rely on each other for daily interaction/guidance/support.
In a casual D/s the sub doesn't have as much access to the Domme. This type of relationship is very much a no-strings attached dynamic. It's fun while you're together but it's not something either of you need 24/7. (Which doesn't mean that it won't change down the road.)
2. Long-Term/Serious D/s
I've touched on this one a lot so I don't feel as if I need to go into full details here but lets stick to the basics. A longterm serious D/s is 24/7. It's not for everyone. A longterm D/s need a ton of commitment from both the Dominant and the submissive. This type of dynamic isn't solely focused on kink, sex or fetishes, this is a full on relationship. D/s relationships often don't involve sex at all. But D/s relationships of this nature encompass your whole life, which means there is a lot of work that needs to go into one if it is going to succeed. The hottest part about a full time D/s relationship in My opinion is when there is TPE. (Total Power Exchange.) It won't be easy, there will be a ton of challenges, but in the end if you commit, focus and put the care needed into this type of relationship, it is beyond worth it.
(Disclaimer: Long-Term D/s isn’t for everyone. Financial stress, family, illness, work, and other things may/will come up and need to take the front seat to the relationship, but if issues are communicated both parties should be able to work through any obstacle that comes at them.)
The two types of relationships listed above are the two main kinds of D/s relationships one may encounter (Not saying there aren't more, relationship types are endless.) however, there are a few things I have to mention. D/s relationships can take MANY forms. Some D/s relationships may be almost purely or slightly sexual nature, and the dynamic also may also only be explored behind closed doors. (In the bedroom for example.) Once in public those roles dissipate. Some submissives aren't ready to dive into a 24/7 type relationship and sometimes the bedroom is the safest place to start exploring. Other times the D/s style may remain there.
There are also romantic and platonic forms of D/s relationships. A lot of people uneducated in the kink scene assume that all relationships have to be sexual in nature. Newsflash: THEY DON'T.
Submission can involve acts service, giving up total control of day to day life, being disciplined, or straight up being the Dominants play thing. The Dominant always takes control over some aspects or almost all aspects of a sub’s life. A Domme and sub can deeply care about each other without needing to get married or by becoming "official" in the vanilla World. Dommes and subs in LT (Long-Term) D/s relationships care for each other just as much as anyone who is in a romantic relationship. (The connection can also be just as strong.) D/s relationships are intense, meaningful and amazing and often can only be understood by those in one/have experienced one before. Often in many D/s relationships the Dominant may have a full-time romantic partner outside of the D/s and they may also have multiple submissives who serve them as well. Dominants get off on power. Duh. But remember submissives are JUST as important in a Dommes life as the Dominant is in the submissives.
Non-Romantic D/s take just as much work as a romantic relationship and hold just as much value!
There are many forms of D/s relationships, at the end of the day all that matters is that you and your Dominant find the one that works best for the both of you. Your relationship doesn't exist to be judged by others, your relationship is for you and your happiness, so if a D/s relationship is an important thing to have your in life, have one, and find a partner who understands you for you. Find that connection that makes your life worth living. D/s relationships are for you and your partner, NOBODY else. Everyone deserves to find happiness and find that meaningful connection in their life. So what are you waiting for? Don't hold back and miss out on the one thing that could change your life and give it some real purpose.
