The Online Findom Scene, The Dilution And The Gradual Withdrawl. (My POV.)

So many of you have probably noticed that I have become less "active" online as of late. And no, it isn't because I'm not a "practicing Domme" anymore or however you want to word it. Frankly, I'm just exhausted and over dealing with the majority of "online subs." Now have I stopped communicating with all online subs? No. But if you're an online sub and I haven't been communicating with you it's for good reason.

I used to be more vocal about the idiots who would get on My nerves, but I have found that it is not productive, plus certain egotistical idiots of the male and yes, female variety seem to love the free "negative" attention, and honestly that negative attention does NOTHING positive for Me. And in some situations, it hurts Me and does more harm that good. (And yes, even Dommes have feelings.) idiots will ALWAYS be idiots, they will not change and I refuse to feed these leeches with the attention they want/give them the satisfaction of letting them know they have gotten under My skin or that they have upset Me. I have learned a lot the last 8 years of being involved in the online kink scene, and just like in the real World, haters and leeches exist whether you want them to or not. Someone will always be jealous of you, someone will always want what you have and someone will always think they belong/have a right to be in your life when they don't. Toxic people exist, yes, those who thrive off of chaos and creating drama, and no you can't "fix" them, or reason with them, but you can CHOOSE to remove them from your World and mind.

I have been practicing and will no longer let negativity occupy a space in My mind. And maybe this is coming with age, as I started out online as a late teen/young adult. Anyways, whatever, fuck toxic and destructive people and fuck those who try to destroy other peoples lives and relationships and fuck those who dishonestly enter D/s relationships without disclosing their true intentions. Unhappy toxic people will always be toxic unhappy people, and I CHOOSE to not let them occupy My space anymore. I have zero interest in "destroying" or "teaching them a lesson." Instead I choose remove them completely from My life, and let them continue on their destructive path out of My way. Karma will catch up eventually. And yes this applies to subs AND dommes that I choose to no longer interact or associate with.

I am a Domme, I thrive off of control, so why would I allow people who can't be controlled/are volatile to be in My life? I used to think all people had good in them. I used to think surely, this must be a misunderstanding, and I used to think that people could see things from something other than their own perspective, but the state of the World as of late shows that this is not true. Assholes are assholes, and assholes will push their own agenda no matter what, no matter how many people get hurt, and no that's not how I function. I don't thrive off of hurting people (non-consensually.). No matter what kind of "person" they may be, sub/domme, whatever. It's not in My DNA. And no, this does not relate to My kink in Sadism. Sadism is different because when I practice it, it's CONSENSUAL, and both parties enjoy it. I don't hurt people for My own self benefit and pleasure knowing that it will hurt them or even possibly damage them beyond repair. Unfortunately, I have been on the wrong end of the "hurt" a few times before, it's sadly apart of the learning process, and no it wasn't knowingly or consensual for that matter, they were all slow fucked up events which I really don't care to get into, seeing as this fucked up individuals would love being mentioned in any shape or form, but no these individuals all can go fuck themselves, as I have "mostly" healed from the damage they caused and have learned from it.

Moving on, so yes, I continue to communicate with those who I deem worthy to be in My life, those who show that they can add to My life and not take away from it. I interact with those who I feel/can form a great connection with. I'm not a Domme who "hoards" subs, yes I practice Findom but at the same time it seems that many online have forgotten the "DOM(ME), part of the fetish. Duh everyone loves money, so yeah maybe many have a "FIN/Finanacial" fetish but what does that have to do with being Dominant? Because the subs love Fin too, as they send it all away. So many have the kink and lifestyle twisted and frankly, it makes Me sick. I don't want to play with those who just want to explore the "fin" side of things, especially when it's self motivated. My subs love FIN and the DOMME part. And the most important part is the DOMME, aka ME. But so many idiots think I HAVE to respond to their messages, well newsflash I don't. What have you done to separate yourself from the pack? How are your messages any different from the other 50+ I get on this website/other social media platforms everyday. I don't get turned on from generic "Hello Goddess, i am a sub, blah blah blah." messages, literally you all sound the same, and usually the same are useless, selfish creatures. Oh, did you take offense to that? Do you think you're different? Okay then prove Me wrong, show Goddess that you actually deserve some kind of attention, because right now 99.9% of you "applicants" are failing.

I am NOT dependent on anyone, not even My subs. Once a relationship is no longer beneficial and yes, beneficial mentally is My #1 concern, that will relationship will end. I don't care how much that sub has to offer financially, My mental health always has and always will be My #1 priority. If you can't show Me that My happiness and mental health is a priority, then you're gone. (And yes, I make sure My subs are okay mentally too.) Yes, even Goddess's/Dommes are human, We have feelings, we feel emotion. IMAGINE THAT. If I don't feel good, why would I want to play with you? your money is worthless and you are failing if I am not happy on all levels. OH, you think My expectations are too high? LEAVE. Because there is nothing wrong with a GODDESS who know's what She needs and knows how to get it, and if that's not you? Well you won't be in My World it's really that simple.

Lurking via My website, isn't a way to get My attention, yes, I see all of you. Lurking is selfish, its filling a need/void you have to be close to Me, but it does NOTHING for Me, and no, I won't respond or try to get the attention of lurkers, this isn't a cat and mouse game. This is on you, where you should crawl and beg to be a part of My life. I have no interest in chasing subs or competing for them (unlike what seems is the majority of the online scene as of late.) , it's not some sick game and you aren't the prize, you never have been, and you never will be. Sorry, not sorry if some other "online domme" made you feel like you were needed and couldn't be replaced, sorry if they begged you to come back, and did whatever else to get your attention again. This is not how I function, and it makes me ill.

you as a sub are expected to metaphorically beg and grovel for Me, you fight to earn My attention, because without you I am still THRIVING, I am still rich AF and I still have subs that do better than you. Lose the ego, you aren't my white knight, or My savior, I have/am everything I need in life. If I choose to share My life with you it's a gift. Disrespect that gift? Buh-Bye.

I practice kink because I ENJOY it, when I stop enjoying something is when I pull back. I used to be online on social media more because I ENJOYED it, the scene has gone to shit for the most part, and a lot of things online had put Me in an unhealthy mindset, so right now it is not beneficial for Me to be as active on social media platforms. Not to mention newbies don't like being told they're wrong, and I don't have time for their hissy fits or care for them at all. sub hissy fits and demands also don't interest Me, not like that needed to be said either. So yes, I will still post on other platforms from time to time and will still regularly post here, as it is My Personal website and MY outlet. This something I enjoy, it's a nice way to cleanse, and sometimes even helps in the healing process. Everything on this site is MINE. I used to love engaging on other online platforms but currently it isn't fun for or mentally beneficial for Me, it's exhausting and doesn't feel good, so I don't do it.

Do I care if I lose followers? No. Because let's be honest half those followers, okay let's be realistic MOST of those followers do NOTHING for Me but lurk OR steal My content and post it as their own, and yes I see you too, the ones who steal these blogs and My words. you're all pathetic. Imitation is the best form of flattery though right? HAH.

Anyways, to wrap this up, seeing as I don't find most forms of social media enjoyable at the moment, I won't post on other platforms as often or if at all, UNTIL I actually find it enjoyable again, and those followers on other platforms will have to deal because they weren't doing anything for Me in the first place. Selfishness is not an attractive sub quality. I do this for ME. I'm not trying to serve anyone but ME. This is about Me living My best life. So everything I write and post is for My benefit, and if it helps you too, cool. But this is My World. Respect it, and if you want to be in it? Do more. Show Goddess that you can make Me happy, don't just tell Me, everyone else does that and well they don't exist in My World and neither do you. How sad...

For you.