How to Consistently Be Goddess’s good boy.(Basic Blog #32)

Originally Published January 4th, 2022 on IcyQueenO.com.

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Welcome to another one of Goddess’s basic blogs. Goddess is finally back from another short hiatus, I unfortunately fell ill, but thankful for My strong Immune System. I am now feeling almost back to 100%, and am blessing with another blog full of My wisdom. Today’s blog is a pretty straight forward one, however for those of you who are too stupid and selfish, it may not be so straight forward and this is exactly why you should read this blog. Goddess is going to keep this blog basic, as I do with all “basic blogs,” so there is no reason that you more dense subs can’t learn something. Now let’s get into the blog.

If you ever get the chance to serve this perfect Goddess, you better not fuck it up. If you’re reading this blog there is a strong chance that you already have, and honestly, that’s sad… But honestly, Goddess expects it from the majority of you, not just any sub is worthy of serving My Perfection. some of you really just can’t control yourselves… Correction, you don’t want to control yourselves. some of you subs become so blinded by your own desires that you make the dumb choice to put yourself first in the moment, and you do so knowing, and disregarding that this one dumb choice could destroy everything. Now ask yourself, is a single moment of release, lust, or weakness really worth losing the best Thing that’s ever happened to you in your entire life? The answer? Of course not, but some of you’re really that fucking dumb, and senseless, and I could go on and on and on, but you don’t deserve the luxury of a verbal beatdown at no cost. At the end of the day, your stupid actions, will always have consequences. some of you also unfortunately get caught up in the initial buzz of interacting with a new Goddess, and once that initial buzz wears off for whatever reason, you tend to stray and look for the next one, if you’re one of those types who put in zero effort and expect to be “buzzy” 24/7, leave now… Buzzes are a privilege, and in order for them to get even better, and hotter and more intense every time? you have to continue to work for them. That’s life. If you don’t learn to work for them, well you’ll never truly be satisfied in life, you will always be chasing the high, and you won’t find it, because you’re lazy, and that’s not Goddess’s problem. Moving on, If you’re an idiot at some point or another and if you’re lucky, Goddess may forgive you the first time, maybe even the second, but you’ve been here before, and read My other blogs, there will come a time, when Goddess just won’t care enough to forgive you anymore, chances do run out, especially when you’re a constant fuck up.

So… The question is, how do you become a good boy consistently?

Honestly, I feel like I’ve said these things 1000 times, especially this first point, but here we go again for the ones in the back….

1. Communicate. (Respectfully)

Yes it’s that simple, communication goes a long way, having doubts? Communicate them. Want to know how to serve Goddess even better? Communicate it. Have a prior obligation on a specific day? Communicate it. Feel like you need _______ in order to be a better submissive, communicate it. Goddess might not always agree with everything you say, but there is always room for open conversation within a D/s relationship. No conversation should ever be off the table, the D/s relationship is supposed to be a safe space, and one that is filled with trust. There is zero reason for things to go unresolved. When you communicate the relationship will be able to grow. And no, communication isn’t just for resolving conflict, it’s also for relationship growth. When you communicate, you learn how to be Goddess’s good boy, and you will even learn to stay Goddess good boy. When you communicate, you can be guided. When you don’t communicate you might as well be sitting in an empty room alone in the dark.

2. Knowing The True Meaning of Tribute.

Tribute is something you send to Goddess to show appreciation. It’s not a bandaid. It doesn’t make all your bad behavior go away. When you act like an asshole and send tribute, guess what? you’re still an asshole, and now you’re just an asshole who sent tribute. Sending tribute in times of bad behavior merely opens the door to possible forgiveness, it does NOT guarantee it. Forgiveness takes work, and further actions. Monetary amounts are not the solution, they are part of the formula that get’s you there. And if you fuck up badly, Goddess will push and test you to see how much and how far you will sacrifice to make things right, and if you fail to make the sacrifice? Bye bye. idiot actions, will always have painful consequences, painful consequence become ingrained in you and help you learn to be come a better sub…. And this should go without saying, but Goddess should always benefit from everything, no matter you do And for those of you who are super dense, tribute should not only be sent when you fuck up. Appreciation should be shown daily, especially in the beginning of a D/s relationship where you are trying to earn a place in Goddess’s life.

3. Understanding and Accepting your True Purpose In Life.

There is a huge difference in claiming to be a sub, and actually accepting and embracing that your are a sub. Claiming to be a sub and only “submitting” when you have specific urges does not make you a good boy. In order to be a good boy consistently you need to accept who you are. A good sub knows their place in life and they fully embrace it, NOT just when they’re horny. Accepting who you are, is the most important step when it comes to being a good boy. A subs purpose is to add to Goddess’s life and make Goddess’s life easier. Goddess can NEVER live in too much luxury, if you aren’t adding to Goddess’s empire, giving Goddess pleasure, and making Goddess’s life easier, you just won’t be in My life. I have no use for headaches, I get enough of those on My own, without your assistance.

4. Understanding And Respecting That Goddess Has A Busy Life Outside Of The D/s relationship.

A good boy understands that their #1 priority is Goddess, and at the same time, also understands that they are not Goddess’s #1 priority. Goddess is the demanding one, NOT you. Goddess has a busy life, and you are so lucky to have a chance to be in it, even at the smallest of capacities. Goddess can’t and won’t always be available to talk when you want Her to. Goddess has a busy life, a Partner, and other subs as well. A good boy will be available, and be eager to do so when Goddess tells them to be available, and if they can’t be, they will communicate it. (And then we will communicate and agree on a time that is reasonable for both of us.) Goddess does have basic expectations for every sub, Goddess expects My subs to check in every morning and every night, regardless if Goddess takes the time to respond or not, unless there is some kind of extenuating circumstance, or if a temporary absence of communication was approved by Goddess prior. Good boys respect Goddess’s time, and they also make themself readily available to be of use to Goddess. Goddess never has, and never will tolerate a sub who ghosts on a commitment. Communication isn’t hard especially since its FREE. If you can’t meet My basic expectations, Goddess has no use for you in My life.

5. Admitting When you’re Wrong And Adjusting your Behavior To Suit Goddess’s Expectations.

Nobody is perfect, and you will make mistakes as My sub. Goddess understands this, but Goddess also doesn’t have the time, nor does She have the energy to tolerate your bullshit. A Goddess should never have to listen to your excuses. Excuses are useless, and excuses don’t make Goddess’s life easier. Good boys don’t make excuses, good boys take accountability for their actions, and work hard to make up for them. Admitting that you’re at fault immediately will save everyone a headache. However, as Goddess has said MANY times, words alone are meaningless, your actions will always show your intentions. So if you are truly sorry and want to be a good boy for Goddess, you will adjust your behavior to Goddess’s expectations, and won’t attempt to waste Goddess’s time with more meaningless words. It’s really that simple.

6. Being Open-Minded And Willing To Learn and Grow Alongside your Perfect Goddess. (Fuck Societal Norms)

This last point is one of the most crucial ones. Societal Norms and the guilt that you feel due to them can end up being your biggest crutch. Getting over this crutch will be life changing. In order to get over this crutch you need to open your mind and see the bigger picture. Society’s ideals, have always been outdated, go back 20 years and see how different things were then compared to now. Do you really want to live in the past longer than you need to? Come to the future. A future where you are not hindered by archaic ideologies. If it makes you happy, makes your life feel full and in turn doesn’t hurt anyone else, what’s the issue? If you want to delve further into this go read two of Goddess older blogs, How "Societal Norms" and Kink Shaming Lead To Doubt and Being A sub And The Fear of Fitting Into “Normal Society.” The two blogs above will give you clarity at what I’m getting at, and save Goddess the time from having to repeat Herself. Anyways, the point being, is that if you let go of the things that are holding you back from embracing your true self, you will grow to be a much happier person and sub. And without the lingering unnecessary shame, you can learn to consistently be a good boy for Goddess, and even become and even better good boy, by learning and growing with Goddess over time.

Anyways, this was supposed to be a basic blog. So I’m going to cut it short here, hopefully these reasons taught you something to day, being a good boy really isn’t that hard. And if you need more guidance I suggest that you also check out this blog for even more clarity, Is Being A Good boy (sub) Really That Hard? (Or Are you Just An idiot?).

Until next time…

Goddess Liv