Findom 101 (Part 1: Reimbursements.)

Since My Findom For Dummies blog is such a big hit, I thought why not start a Findom 101 blog series. Before you newbies get too excited about this blog... This blog is not going to teach you how to be a "domme." This blog is to point out some of the stupidity that Goddess constantly sees on the internet. The stuff that "new dommes' call Findom, when it just isn't. This is a basic 101, duh see the title? So it's not going to be a long one, but it will be a fun one... For Goddess at least. :) Haters will say that I don't make the rules on Findom or Dominance, but some forget that BDSM has existed for forever and yes, there is a thing called a code. Also... Some behavior just straight up makes you look like an idiot. Anyways lets get into another super fun basic blog!

Welcome to Reimbursements 101.

To start, what is the definition of reimburse?

Pretty black and white no? For those of you who are still confused, someone can ONLY be reimbursed if they have already spent the money. If you see a picture of a "shopping cart" which hasn't been checked out and actually paid for... Why is the "domme" is asking for reimbursement? Is it really a reimbursement? If money hasn't been spent, it's impossible for anything to be reimbursed... More often than not... If the cart hasn't been paid for, it's likely that the "domme" never had the money to even pay for these items in the first place. It's pretty pathetic that people are calling things "reimbursements" just hoping to get unaware subs to buy them things that they couldn't even afford on their own in the first place... I prefer to call this act, panhandling.

So what is the proper way to to be reimbursed you ask? If you're really that dumb and need Goddess to break it down even further... Here we go. 1. Spend actual money on something. In order to be reimbursed you need to have actually paid for the item(s) prior to asking for reimbursement. That's it. Buy something, post the final receipt paid in full, and proceed. Yes, it really is that simple. I Personally, like to show My subs My receipts and insist that they reimburse Me, and on top of that for a little extra added spice, pay double the amount the very least, just because. It's a very hot little game... Anyways, where was I? Oh yeah... Don't ask to be reimbursed for things you haven't paid for/can't afford on your own.

Why you ask? Because it makes you look dumb and desperate.

There is nothing Dominant about begging someone to pay for a cart of luxury items that you can't afford on your own, and don't even start with Me, if you had the money in the first place the items would already be paid for. And no I don't need to hear the "I shouldn't have to spend my own money" cop out. This ONLY applies if you already spent the money, then if you're lucky a good sub will happily reimburse you.

If your goal in life is to have men buy you things that you can't afford on your own, and in addition have to depend on them financially for life, I suggest turning to sugaring, or even camming. There you will find many "daddies" and "men" who will happily pay for things for you or even give their little princess spending money... If you GFE/date them/send them nudes or whatever. LOL. Why is Goddess suggesting daddies? Simply because you can't be dominating anyone if you can't pay for things on your own. In these situations you have no power, when your cart can't be checked out without the aid of someone else. In some cases these "dommes" ask for reimbursements to try and get instant money for bills they can't afford to pay. AKA they never were going to buy these items in the first place. (I thought the subs were supposed to be the ones struggling financially?) If you simply want and need money for shopping sprees, rent, bills, rescue and whatever else, without ever having to put on a "dominant" act find a "daddy type" to pay for you. It's super easy, I promise. ;) (Besides, those pictures "dommes" are selling, and the fast food meals they desperately need paid for, aren't Domme/Goddess like or even Findom related at all.)

I think I'm done explaining this subject, I really shouldn't have to dumb it down any more than I already have. Reimbursements are for things that you have actually bought. And in return a good sub will find pleasure in sending Goddess money to reimburse Her... Because yes, a Goddess shouldn't have to spend Her own money. But in order not to for a Goddess not have to spend Her own money, She has to have Her own money in the first place. And yes, this is why you call it getting reimbursed. (Not because a Domme can't check out without a sub or whoevers aid.)

Financial Domination is dominating someone financially. How can a domme dominate someone financially when they don't even have any money of their own? Seems like a bad idea to trust someone who can't even manage their own money properly...