Fake Dommes vs Real Dommes. (Basic Blog #6)

Real Domme vs. Fake Dommes. It's all over the internet as of late. There is a clear over saturation of Dommes online now for sure, so how can you tell whos "real" and who's "fake?" Here are some flags to look for which can potentially save you from getting into a dangerous or abusive situation.

PART 1: Submission.

I'm sure you've all heard that "submission is gift" in one form or another. But this isn't just a saying, it's true. So where does submission and determining whether someone is a fake domme or real Domme come in??? It's simple. A real Domme gains submission from building a foundation with Her sub, one built on trust and respect. Submission is a gift and should never be forced. What do I mean by forced? Well... Some dommes think that it is okay to force a sub to submit by using intimidation, by provoking fear and by threatening a sub. These are all FLAGS. A sub should never feel forced to submit. Submission should always feel safe, and be voluntary. A real Domme does NOT need to use scare tactics to get a sub to submit to her.

PART 2: Communication.

A real Domme communicates regularly with Her sub, She does not avoid communication or choose to only communicate when She wants something. A real Domme values Her relationship with Her sub and understands that regular communication is an important building block. A fake domme avoids communication until its convenient for her, usually when she wants something. (IE she may be quiet for weeks and then start messaging you because she needs something. Newsflash she wants your money not you.)

Part 3: The Relationship

A real Domme works hard on the relationship She's building with Her sub. The relationship means something, and the Domme will also accept responsibility when things go wrong or need to change. A Domme is human too and knows that relationships are a two-way street. A Domme that cannot take accountability for her actions is not a real Domme at all. A fake domme will also only want one thing from a relationship, and in this day and age most online dommes will mainly only want money.

Part 4: Limits

A real Domme will ALWAYS respect Her subs limits. She will never push a sub through their limits to get what She wants. A fake Domme will repeatedly push through limits to get what she wants, she will have zero regard for how it affects the sub as the only thing she cares about is getting what she wants. A fake domme doesn't care about limits or safewords, sure initially she may ask for them, but it's all an act. A fake domme only cares about what she wants, the sub is just considered collateral damage.

Part 5: Mental Health/WellBeing.

A real Domme practices self control and understands what's best for Her sub. A good Domme cares about Her subs wellbeing. A real Domme is also affected by Her subs behavior as the connection between Her and Her sub is so strong. A real Domme genuinely CARES. A fake domme is physically, emotionally abusive or both. A fake Domme lacks self control and will do anything to get what she wants. A fake domme will attack a sub, harass a sub, threaten to ruin their lives even going as far as exposure and will and not stop until she gets her way. A fake domme has no respect for limits.

Part 6: Punishment

A Real Domme punishes a sub to help them grow. Punishment is not meant to hurt or "destroy" a sub. A good Domme punishes a sub to help them learn and to become a better person and sub. A Fake Domme punishes to dim a subs spirit and hurt a sub. Punishment is always for her benefit. It's that simple.

Obviously these aren't all the factors to determine a fake or real Domme. This is just another basic blog to underline, well the basics. Perhaps I will add more to this blog if I feel inspired. But this is where I will leave it for now. Just don't be stupid and notice the signs before it is too late.