Being a Queen vs Claiming that you're a queen. (Basic Blog #15)

It's been a while since I wrote a blog that caused "controversy," so why not write one today? The online scene has become dilluted, I've said it before, and yes, I'll say it again, so many online that claim that they are Queens, Goddesses or better yet Dommes. True Dommes are STRONG ASS independent Women. They live to be pleased and served. A Domme/Queen/Goddess knows what She wants and how to get it, She doesn't change Her Morales of values to get x amount of whatever from a sub, gross. A Domme doesn't claim to be a Findom Queen while struggling to pay Her own bills. If this is the case... Get a real job. ;)

This Queen loves ruffling a few feathers, because why not? Who am I to say what does or doesn't make a Queen? Well for one... I am a true Goddess and Queen, whether you agree or not... That's up to you. Do I care what you think? Not even in the slightest. Moving forward... A Queen has an energy that is undeniable, when She walks into the room She takes command. She doesn't have to yell for attention, or beg for it, the attention is simply on Her because her presence simply commands it. It may be shown in the way that She walks, or even in the way She flips Her hair over Her shoulders, sometimes the energy just radiates off of Her. Queens get noticed. Period.

An inexperienced woman shouldn't just wake up one morning and think to herself...Today I will be a FemDom Queen! (Based on what she has seen from successful Dominant Females on the internet.) The Femdom World isn't something that someone should just stumble into because they've heard it's profitable. Newsflash very few "online" Dommes are extremely profitable, and your inexperience isn't going to make you profitable, you will 99.9% of the time fail like all the others who woke up one day with this "amazing" idea. If you don't truly enjoy kink, if you don't get off on power and control, if you know nothing about the lifestyle, and espescially if you think this is an easy way to pay your bills or to make some extra cash, stay out. Do some research, (Here's a pointer... Watch some different kinds of kink porn. Does it turn you on or disgust you?) try to really appreciate and learn about Femdom and BDSM, and don't add to the dillution and mockery that our Lifestlyle is becoming. Educate yourself. (Nobody needs to see more pictures on the internet of domme dressup in a cheap pvc/plastic outfit she ordered from amazon or the lack of dressing up if you know what I mean.) (My other favorite is "dommes" wearing slave collars with O-rings, thinking they look "dominant." Honey, your inexperience is showing.) The Femdom World is a Lifestyle, NOT a way to make a quick buck by "abusing weak men." Our lifestyle isn't a game. With being a Domme comes huge responsibility. Being a Domme isn't a roleplay, it isn't an act. Being Dominant is who someone is a human being. People explore kink for the love of kink, not for some other twisted ulterior motive. Someone with not even a single dominant bone in their body shouldn't claim to be a domme. It's irresponsible. This is just one example of what I mean when I say "claiming to be a queen."

A Queen has 0 need to tell the World how amazing She is 24/7, she simply shows the World by simply existing. A Queen can make you feel instantly weak. She doesn't need to post graphic censored or uncensored pics for attention or to make you feel wark. A Queen is unattainable. One look, even one single word from Her perfect lips and you become a puddle. An eager puddle. A Queen get's things done. A Queen is educated, She does what She wants, when She feels like it. She controls her entire empire, every last single working cog. A Queen doesn't rely on anyone in even the hardest of times. A Queen has Her life on lock. subs come and go, the good ones remain loyal, even when they can no longer serve, they crave to remain in the Queen's life at any capacity possible, and the flakes, well they flake off like dandruff, itchy and unecessary.

A Queen values Her relationships. She knows how to get the maximum output from all of them. Many desire the Queen, but the Queen only desires those who are worthy. A Queen knows Her worth. A Queen doesn't need a sub to put food on Her plate, to pay Her rent or simply just to survive. A Queen doesn't need random ass subs to tell Her how amazing She is 24/7, She already knows it. A Queen chooses to have subs because they make Her life feel full. subs are a part of a Queens life, not Her mealticket. And yes, there is a difference, using the title Queen is not a JOB title, it's not an automatic reason to "serve" Her, it's who She truly is, it's very obvious that there is mass confusion due to the many "domme" accounts popping up. subs are not walking dollar signs, and no, not every sub exists to serve you, just because you say they do. Being a Queen isn't roleplay. A Queen is NOT a damsel in distress, She doesn't need saving, often the Queen is the one who does the saving. Many feel lost in the World until they find their true purpose at their Queen's feet. It is sad feeling lost and alone in the World... But when you find your Queen you will know... Everything will change. Don't be stupid and mess it up, you may never get another chance. Good subs are as essential for a Queens happiness, just as much as She is essential for theirs.

A Queen DOESN'T feel the need to interact with any sub just because they offer _______. A chance to worship a Queen is a privilege and not a right. A true Queen values Her time and doesn't accept just any subs offer. A Queen does not seek subs for validation. If you have been "worshipping" multiple queens just by simply offering ________ and they accept, you should rethink what you have been doing from the "queen" or sub side. A Queen isn't a flea market where you can barter for what you want, and there is no value menu either. If a Queen has a menu that you can order off of, you know... Just like a happy meal... Well... She's not a Queen. She's providing a service. :) Sorry to say... But you've been missing out on a truly wonderful experience.

A Queen who practices kink, always practices it consensually. A Queen respects RACK, SSC and to put in plainer terms, She respects Her subs bounderies. A Domme studies the craft for years, She is mentored and learns the ins and outs. A true Queen would NEVER push a sub beyond limits that are comfortable. A Queen wouldn't engage in a kink that they are not experienced in, especially when it could be dangerous. IE Breath play, medical play, needle play, castration ect ect. A Queen would never cause permanent physical damage (Without consent), or lasting mental trauma. A Queen would never put Her sub in a life threatening situation. A Queen would never put Her subs Personal or family life at risk/or in harms way. A Queen would never force someone to serve through illegal methods, involuntarily or otherwise. A Queen expects respect and gives respect to those who deserve it. A Queen is above chasing and is definitley above harassment and threats. A Queen will never engage in a kink that puts a subs life/mental health at risk simply for Her own benefit. A Queen respects a D/s relationship and everything that they stand for. A Queen will always have loyal subs who are devoted to Her and only Her. A Queen is irreplacable, but subs can be replaced... Easily. Many subs may venture off thinking there are greener pastures, but eventually they always face the reality, that their Queen was the only Queen for them. This realization is self made. NOT forced. The right sub will always come back. Without their Queen their life is empty and lacks meaning.

A Queen respects people for being people. (sub or otherwise.) A Queen doesn't need to waste Her time bringing others down due to jealousy or spite. A Queen is truly above the bullshit, She learns this over time and through growth. A Queen focuses on Herself. A Queen can acknowledge her own flaws. A Queen works on improving Herself daily. A Queen never stops striving for perfection or pure happiness because it's what She deserves! A Queen doesn't broadcast negativity to the World. A Queen lives to see other Females empowered. A Queen doesn't concern Herself with those She does not "like." She has better things to spend Her time and energy on. Jealousy? Petty. A true Queen embraces Female Supremacy. Does a Queen need to tear other Queens down to get what She wants? Hell no. A Queen wants to surround Herself with Queen energy, not destroy it. A Queen knows there is more than enough to go around, and why would a Queen try to destroy someone who is worthy of such worship? Queens support Queens.

A Queen is strong, beautiful, smart, intuitive, sexy, mesmerizing. I can go on and on. A Queen doesn't need to convince anybody or anything what She is worthy of. A Queen will shut down anything that doesn't meet Her standards. A Queen handles her own shit. Period. A Queen doesn't need your attention just to feel validated. A Queen doesn't need to live on the internet or on Her phone 24/7. She has a life. She doesn't need to constantly tell the World how rich She is and then BAM, in the next post demand for someone to cover Her $35 meal. A true Queen knows her worth and doesn't need to constantly convince everyone of what that is. How do you know if you're in the presence of a true Queen? You feel it, you just know. A Queen won't be talking your ear off, or posting constantly about how amazing She is, She won't be talking shit about every other Domme who is more successful than her, She won't be sending you ________ photos to command your attention or to try and squeeze _______ dollars out of you. That just isn't how a Queen operates. A Queen simply recieves worship and admiration because She deserves it. A true Queen is a Queen 24/7, not just when She opens Her messages, or when She needs a few dollars. Being a Queen is who She is and a way of life. Queen energy, it's a real thing, not 10000000000000 words on the internet convincing everyone you are something you more than likely aren't. Female supremacy is a real thing, and many of the "queens" out there don't pass the vibe check... Like not even close. (And most of you so called subs are sorry excuses for subs too... But that's for another blog.) xoxo