The "flakes" In Findom and Not Taking Things At Face Value. (Basic Blog #2.)

Here, we go again. Another "basic" to the point blog. Todays blog is about one topic every online Domme has probably faced. The "flakey" sub. Are flakey subs a waste of time? Not if you know what to expect. Huh? Lost? Keep reading...

So here's the scenario. There is a Domme and there is a sub. In this scenario the "sub" approaches a Domme. This sub is "desperate" to serve this Domme, he promises this Domme everything he has, he promises to be the best sub ever, to be "different," to treat the Domme as She deserves, blah blah, sunshine, rainbows and butterflies. This sub tributes, and also commits himself by saying he will serve this Goddess for 1 year no exceptions. FLAG. Okay, so slowwww down. subs talk a lot of shit. Like A LOT of shit. subs also promise the World to Dommes during periods of "weakness."

What's a period of "weakness" you ask?

Simple. So simple. This is when a "new sub" approaches a Domme and is either superrrrr horny, "relapsing," or feeling "subby" at the moment. Let Me put it this way... Most subs have "sent" or "tributed" at one point but NOT all subs who send are "finsubs." OMG shocker. So yeah sometimes a "sub" will have moments of "weakness" those moments of weakness can last a few hours, days, even months at times. But then.... as all flakes do, they eventually "fly" away. These flakes act as if their words and promises meant nothing because "things change," they're feeling "conflicted," something "came up," blah blah blah ect. Hot tip: Don't get emotionally attached to flakey subs, no flake is worth fucking up your day. (A good percentages of flakes are repeat offenders. Absolute gluttons.)

Here's another pearl of wisdom.. Not all subs are flakes but at some point all subs have flaked (And they will flake again.) Some subs WILL approach, earn their place and ACTUALLY commit. But how many actually fully commit? Here's a reality check. Not many. For many the moment "passes." So don't get your hopes up if you're a Domme, and if you're a sub don't be an idiot and promise more than you can give, but chances are, you're an idiot and you can't even get that right.

So to keep this blog "basic," don't take what subs say at face value, because it's often a pile of crap, hey, they might even believe themselves when they say it in the moment, but 95% of the time in this now oversaturated, exposed scene they don't really mean it. I don't care if you got a "contract" or whatever it's not "legally" binding genius, so don't do something dumb that can lead to you getting in trouble.

Many subs approach Me daily, many promise Me ridiculous things, things I know they will probably never have the privilege of handing over to Me, because well they are stupid, but that doesn't mean I won't let them "try," and when they fail? It won't upset Me, and when they succeed? It's a pleasant surprise, but at the end of the day? Its a win-win situation when you have no "concrete expectations," and are getting what you want within the moment.

Solid lasting D/s connections are amazing but... If a sub flakes? Who cares... At least you saw it coming... Enjoy it while it lasts, let them "promise" you the World and take from them and let them send while they are still feeling"subby," because it's not going to last, just like many of your other failed relationships. "OMG you're saying D/s interactions are like a real vanilla relationship?" YES. Relationships and D/s can be comparable, not getting into it in this blog since its part of My "basic" series. But use your head. Relationships ARE relationships. flakey subs exist, flakey people exist and those flakes don't have to negatively impact your day, or mood if you know what you're in for. Once you have this mindset nothing will be able to hold you back, where one flake fell, another will follow shortly.

flakey subs are just part of the scene, flakey people are a part of life, and if you handle them accordingly they can be fun and beneficial to you in many ways. Being the flake? Not so great, because when you're a flake you miss out on developing a real connection with a Domme, flakes don't get the emotional connection which is one of the most amazing parts of a D/s. you can be a flake who's empty, scared to commit and unfulfilled or you can buckle down and experience something real and amazing. Being a flake is often a crutch, Goddess's advice? Lose it.

To be Continued...

Stay tuned for My next "Basic Blog." The Returning "flakes."